Officiant's Matter: How To Choose The Right Officiant For Your Wedding Ceremony

You've probably been dreaming about your wedding day since you were a child. Now that your dreams are becoming a reality, you've likely spent many months planning the perfect day. You've spent a lot of time finding the perfect wedding attire, selecting a venue, and choosing the best invitations.

Maybe you haven't given much thought to who will perform your wedding ceremony. Perhaps you feel any minister can get the job done. However, choosing the right officiant may be the most important part of your wedding day. There are several things to consider when choosing an officiant.

Do your religious beliefs line up with theirs?

If your officiant isn't on the same page spiritually as you and your partner, you may not agree with the vows your officiant typically uses to perform weddings. You should know if your officiant holds to specific denominational beliefs or if they are willing to perform non-denominational ceremonies depending on your religious affiliation.

An officiant who is expected to adhere to strict church doctrine or guidelines will not be a good choice if your beliefs are different. Your wedding is about you and your spouse, and you should not be expected to compromise on your beliefs due to doctrinal conflicts.

Will they accommodate non-traditional ceremonies?

Are you passionate about having a wedding that is uniquely yours? If traditional wedding vows bore you to tears, you will need to select an officiant who is agreeable to letting you be in charge of selecting or writing your own marriage vows. A good officiant will also take the time to get to know you and your partner and customize a ceremony based on your desires.

Do you wish to incorporate your own wedding music into the ceremony? Some officiants may belong to religious denominations that prohibit certain styles of music to be used during wedding ceremonies.

Some churches also forbid dancing at weddings or alcohol being served at receptions, whether ceremonies are held at the church facility or not. They will expect the officiant to abide by these guidelines. When selecting an officiant, you will want to let them know whether dancing or alcohol is going to be part of your ceremony and select an officiant accordingly.

What type of personality do they have?

It may seem strange to consider the personality of your officiant. However, if you and your partner are fun loving people who enjoy lighthearted joking, you probably won't feel comfortable with an officiant who lacks a sense of humor.  

Is your officiant likable and easy to communicate with? Your wedding should be memorable for you and your guests. An officiant who has an outgoing and fun personality will be able to navigate the wedding ceremony with a good balance of fun and seriousness.

When it comes to a great wedding ceremony, officiant's do make a difference. They can make the difference between a wedding that's fun and memorable and one that is boring and monotonous. Taking the time to choose the right officiant for your wedding may even be the most important part of preparing for your special day.

For more information, contact a an officiant like those at Walton Memorial United Church.

About Me

Getting In Touch With Your Religious Side

After I started having trouble with my conscience, I realized I needed to get back to my roots and start taking my religious beliefs seriously. I stopped messing around on the weekends and started focusing on attending different churches. However, after going to a few different parishes, I realized that none of them were for me. I headed overseas to study eastern religions, and that was where I found my spirit. This blog is all about getting in touch with your religious side, so that you can make your life more meaningful in the long run. You never know, attending church could change your life.